Untying knots, untying us: the end of violent sexual-affective relationships of women with their own income and higher education
life stories; Maria da Penha Law, intersectionality; abusive relationships; women with their own income and higher education.
This research aims to understand, through the life stories of six cisgender women
with their own income and higher education, the rupture processes of their already finished violent
heterossexual affective-sexual relationships. The focus was to highlight the forms of violence
experienced by the interlocutors, their trajectories to leave these contexts and how they dealt with
their effects. To better comprehend their realities, interviews were made with women aged from 32 to
36 years old (age group that intended to cover the fact that they spent their adolescence and early
adult life in the midst of the dissemination of Maria da Penha Law in society). Two of them self-
declared themselves as being white, one indigenous, one brown, one black and one black/indigenous; three of them had children and two were residents of rural areas. The intersectional feminist theoretical approach helped to understand that the violence takes place in complex and multiple scenarios that need to be comprehended beyond common sense that provides single stories about them, that tend to blame the victims or to consider them as passive and ignorant in the face of this reality. Any woman could potentially suffer from violence in their affective-sexual relationships,
including those who have sources of income and university education. The psychological violence,
the exploitation of the reproductive work, as well as the financial/patrimonial and intellectual
exploration were present in the center of the interlocutors' reports and peripherally, other forms of violence. Their narratives were diverse but, at the same time, had in common the attack they suffered on their self esteem and on their possibilities of self determination, harming them in their lives, their relations to themselves, their professional and academic careers. Particularly, the forms of
exploitation to which they were submitted had a very negative impact on their careers, insofar as they
had to spend more time doing domestic work and with high expenditure of time, money and
emotional distress. Their rupture strategies were diverse, but all went through a process that was not
easy nor linear, of intense reviewing on the place of intimate relationships in their lives, as means of
restructuring themselves, their projects and their affective sphere. This process was favored by their
insertion in social and support networks and by the initial understanding that violence is not only
exercised physically, with women who are financially dependent on their partners, without access to
study and in no condition of professional/intellectual development, which is already advocated by the
Maria da Penha Law.